When you send someone a message via an online dating website , you often have the option to go in to your sent messages and see if something has been read yet. Today, I saw the 2 harshest words I’d ever seen in the sent folder: Read Deleted. My brain went something like this: Read…
“You Need To Be More Spontaneous”
When someone messages you on a dating site after 11 PM at night – they are generally up to no good. And last night, someone I had initially contacted back a few weeks ago finally messaged me back. We chatted back and forth – and things had more of a naughty tone, which seems to…
Focusing on What You Have
Christmas Eve was spent with friends and Christmas Night was spent with friends. There was lots of good food, laughter and love all around. There was that one moment when I realized that for the first time in 5 years, I would be waking up alone on Christmas Morning. But I pushed it out of…
Dreaming of Liverwurst
In my favorite holiday movie, White Christmas, there’s a little improv between Rosemary Clooney and Bing Crosby about how what you eat before you go to sleep can affect your dreams. If you eat one thing, you’ll dream of a blonde; another a brunette. If you eat liverwurst? Well, you’ll dream of liverwurst. I had…
I Don’t Mean To Judge
Seen on a dating website: My self-summary: I am currently dealing with a bad back and leg pain with nerve damage and I am hoping to meet some new ppl here. What I’m doing with my life: I am currently waiting on my lawyer to work a settlement so I can go back to school…
Kiss and Tell
One of the challenges of online dating is knowing when to share things and when to wait. For example, when do you tell someone that you are talking to more than one person? It should be a given – we are all looking and no one should have all their eggs in one basket. But…
Coming Out
When I first announced that I was getting divorced, the majority of my family and friends were surprised because I had always taken care not to let the ugly side of our marriage show. At that point, I vowed that moving forward I would always be upfront and honest with no secrets. My motto has…
Midnight Messages
I’ve been on a few dates now, and I’ve had to tell a few people that I just wasn’t interested in moving forward. Last Monday, I noticed 2 blocked calls coming to my cell and chose not to answer them on principal. On Tuesday, I went to bed early, but woke up to a series of…
How to Become a Dictator on a Nickel
I originally wrote this piece about 8 years ago. It started with the age-old discussion: Would you rather have Fame, Fortune, or Power? He had made a comment that you couldn’t have much power if you only had a nickel. I disagreed and presented this option instead. Disclaimer: if anyone uses my instructions to become a…