Sometimes, I’m just not that perceptive. “I tried to hit on you last year when we saw each other at the convention,” someone recently told me. I tried to think back and couldn’t think of a single thing he said to indicate to me that he was interested. Nothing sprang to mind. It’s not the first…
Need A Hug?
I had a coffee date last week with someone who has just started the divorce process, including finally realizing the ex had already moved on without him. As we chatted about life after marriage, I was reminded of my own post-marriage realizations. I chose to move 1,600 miles away from my ex-husband during the divorce…
Don’t Tell Me I’m Beautiful
My mom used to think it was helpful to tell me that “I have a beautiful face, and if I could just lose a few pounds. . .” She would often reinforce that sentiment by telling me how she had shown people at work my pictures and they had said the same thing. I know…
The Tale of Bra Boy
He found me on Yahoo. I was in the process of separating from my husband and moving to Denver, he lived in Colorado Springs. He assured me it was fairly close by. We chatted back and forth over several weeks. When I first arrived in Denver, I knew no one other than my landlord/roommate…
Romance vs. 7-11
I once dated a taxicab driver for about 5 months. I worked days, he worked nights and weekends. We would meet for lunch and/or dinner at my place, sometimes bounce some springs, and then he’d head off in to the night. I broke it off when I started to feel like his personal 7-11: a place…
Its Up Two U
I rewrote my dating profile this weekend after a male friend who was on the same site took a look at it for me. “You need to sell yourself more,” he said. “You need to forget about being humble and just put out the best things about you and stick by them.” It’s hard. I was…
Happy New Year!
So yes, I know, I’m a few days late. My roommate and I spent New Year’s Eve at home, watching the Dick Clark special as they counted down the new year. Another First After come and gone. I’m beginning new patterns – found a new group to watch Doctor Who with – have some new…
How Not to Date An Abuser
Got to catch up with some dear friends this weekend, and while chatting about my dating adventures, my one friend discussed the warning signs of an abuser and mentioned a good article about the subject by Steven Stosny, Ph.D. You can read the full article here: Are You Dating An Abuser? Here are the 9 early warning signs: (each one is…
U R Sew Purtee
Is it just me? Does being hit on by someone who can’t type complete sentences appeal to anyone else? I can understand if we were both 18 – but at my age, I expect my counterparts to think, and type, in mostly complete sentences. Yes, yes I really do.