“I miss your posts.” a friend told me recently. “You just don’t seem to post so much.” It’s true. I think as a rule it was easier to think of things to say and lessons learned when life was full of awkward online dating stories, sorrowful recalling of past relationship wrongs, and hopeful beginnings. I’m…
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The Bureau of Happiness
It was just a drawer. But he offered it to me with such openness and excitement that I got overwhelmed. Never before had I been offered space in someone else’s haven. I had asked for it several times – and been first offered a corner here or there to stash some stuff, and eventually been…
Rearranging Poetry
I’d walked by it for months and left it untouched. But finally I turned around and knelt down and started moving the pieces back up to eye view. It was magnetic word poetry, given to me by friends. When I first put it on my fridge, I’d ask my friends to make a phrase or…
Tasting the Cake
I lied about my first kiss. Not the one from the boy named Billy who defended my honor back in kindergarten. But the one in high school that I told my classmates about, rather than admitting that no boy had tried yet. It happens. But it’s a shame when it does. Because when I finally…
Dating at Fortysomething
“I used to not have a problem putting myself out there,” my friend Randi said. “I’d go out, date guys, no problem. But then I got in to the more geeky side of things and when I’d flirt with guys they’d get this deer in the headlights look and I’d get self-conscious and now it’s…
The Final Box
It was a short email. “I’m finally down to the last little bit of stuff to get out of [the place], so please let me know when and how is best for me to get a small box of your things to you.” You would think after over a year, I would be done with…
I Stalked a Boy and I Liked It
I saw him first on Tinder – a dating app that incorporates Facebook to compare your common interests, mutual friends, and location. If you and your match select “yes” for each other, a chat message feature is unlocked. I’ve been told that some people only use it for a hook up system – others use…
The Unwrapped Present
Dodger and I had been dating about a month – we started the day after Thanksgiving. We had moved quickly – the adrenalin rush of a new crush that felt like champagne bubbles in your brain. I had met his parents, even slept each weekend in his parents’ guest room (he was slightly old-fashioned, but…
When the Wrong One Does the Right Stuff
“So you guys dated, huh?” I nod. “Wow, I can’t picture you guys together.” It’s a statement I’ve heard a few times. The Geek world tends to run in small circles, so it’s not uncommon to run in to ex-boyfriends or dating partners. My goal is always that if we liked each other enough to…