When I first announced that I was getting divorced, the majority of my family and friends were surprised because I had always taken care not to let the ugly side of our marriage show.<\/p>\n
At that point, I vowed that moving forward I would always be upfront and honest with no secrets. \u00a0My motto has been, “Don’t ask me a question you don’t really want me to answer.”<\/p>\n
For the most part, I’m a pretty open person these days. \u00a0I’ve probably been accused of overshare more than once. \u00a0And yet, here I sit, writing and erasing this post over and over again.<\/p>\n
Because today, something happened to me and I really just wasn’t prepared. A friend outed me.<\/p>\n
Being outed to friends is not as bad as being outed to strangers. \u00a0But it can still be a shock to the system. \u00a0I could have probably brushed off the information that was shared, but instead I ended up stating it rather forcefully and probably a bit more harshly than I needed to do.<\/p>\n
The truth is – although I’m not ashamed, I do tend to be private about some areas of my life until I know people better. This includes the fact that I’m a bisexual and that I have a kinkier side. Past boyfriends have helped me explore that side, but now that I’m single again there are certain parts of my bisexual side that I haven’t been able to explore as comfortably before.<\/p>\n
I just don’t want that part of my life to be the thing that people focus on. \u00a0Yes, I have a non-traditional view of sex and other things. \u00a0It’s an interesting psychological study, it’s a fascinating feature to some, repulsive to others. \u00a0I’m not alone – I know this. \u00a0But I’m the same person I was before people knew this.<\/p>\n
Also, this side of my life is not just private for me – it’s private for the others who are in it with me. \u00a0And in my effort to be honest and forthright about who I am, I still have to be respectful for who they are. \u00a0I can only tell my story – I don’t have permission to tell theirs.<\/p>\n
So here I am, out as I will probably ever be. \u00a0But nothing about that has changed. \u00a0I’m still Joey – girl geek, lover of men, and single 40-something. \u00a0Thanks for reading.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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