I saw him first on Tinder \u2013 a dating app that incorporates Facebook to compare your common interests, mutual friends, and location. If you and your match select \u201cyes\u201d for each other, a chat message feature is unlocked. I\u2019ve been told that some people only use it for a hook up system \u2013 others use it to find someone to date. Me, I was using it for research. Yeah, research. I swear. No really. Uh huh.<\/p>\n
I\u2019d had a few chat messages with folks, some I already knew, but nothing magical. One guy\u2019s idea of flirting with me was to assure me \u201cI\u2019d blow ya<\/em>\u201d repeatedly. This was after informing me he was a professor at UNC-Charlotte teaching classes in public speaking and writing. Really? That\u2019s the best shot you\u2019ve got?<\/p>\n Most people answered back within a day or two of matching. Well, except for one. Every time I received a heads up that there was a new chat message, I kept hoping it would be him. But alas, no: it was the \u201cI\u2019d blow ya\u201d guy with another eloquent come on.<\/p>\n In frustration, I clicked on his profile again to see if there was something wrong with him that I could use as salve for my bruised ego. I mean, c\u2019mon, I\u2019m a catch y\u2019all. He still didn\u2019t have any flaws, except one. He hadn\u2019t logged in for 3 weeks. <\/p>\n AAUUGH! How can you not log in when I\u2019m waiting for you to reply?? How dare you!<\/em><\/p>\n But wait. We have mutual friends! On Facebook! I could find him!<\/p>\n I asked my friends if this was creepy, and they looked at each other and said \u201cYes<\/em>!\u201d but I didn\u2019t care. It was at least worth a shot.<\/p>\n So I stalked him off a mutual friend\u2019s page, friend requested him and he added me back almost immediately. We started chatting and I confessed that I had stalked him from Tinder. (I mean, what if he logged in to Tinder after and then saw that I had messaged him weeks ago \u2013 now THAT would be creepy). This way all the creepy was right up front and he seemed okay with it.<\/p>\n Long story short? We met in person and have hit it off really well. To quote a phrase, we are smitten. Indeed, we are in \u201cdeep smit.\u201d<\/p>\n I\u2019ve broken several rules this time around, including my \u201cnot-declaring-a-potential-new-relationship- before-90- days\u201d rule. Sometimes, rules are meant to be broken. Or at least tested for validity. For research. Yeah, research. I swear. No really. Uh huh.<\/p>\n *dances off happily*<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" I saw him first on Tinder \u2013 a dating app that incorporates Facebook to compare your common interests, mutual friends, and location. If you and your match select \u201cyes\u201d for each other, a chat message feature is unlocked. I\u2019ve been told that some people only use it for a hook up system \u2013 others use…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_feature_clip_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":true,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2},"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false},"categories":[3],"tags":[195,9,41,193,194,192],"class_list":["post-430","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-dating","tag-creepy","tag-dating-2","tag-facebook","tag-matches","tag-stalking","tag-tinder"],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/p2UnPK-6W","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_likes_enabled":true,"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/joeywrites.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/430","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/joeywrites.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/joeywrites.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/joeywrites.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/joeywrites.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=430"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/joeywrites.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/430\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/joeywrites.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=430"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/joeywrites.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=430"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/joeywrites.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=430"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}