So it has been almost a month since my alienectomy.<\/p>\n
To say that transition from alien baby carrier (10 inch dermoid cyst firmly attached to my left ovary) to recovery patient of a hysterectomy and partial oophorectomy (left ovary removal) has been an adventure would be odd.<\/p>\n
On the one hand, I had a month to plan.\u00a0 But there are some things you just can’t plan for properly.\u00a0 For example, I was aware that the surgery would mean that my stomach would hurt for a while and that I would have 3 external incision areas, and one internal incision area.<\/p>\n
What I didn’t know was that I wouldn’t be allowed to push when I had to poop.\u00a0 Do you have any idea how hard it is to do that?\u00a0 Let me tell you, there is only one way to poop without pushing – and that is called gravity.\u00a0 I didn’t know that Gravity would win so many Oscar awards, and I certainly didn’t know that it would be my salvation for the past several weeks.<\/p>\n
I knew that I would have lots of free time to focus on other things besides work – but I had no idea how much of my time would be spent focusing on pooping.\u00a0 I took medicines, special home remedies, avoided cheese, got more advice than I knew what to do with, and then combined them all in one historic day I called “The Great Poo Day.”<\/p>\n
But pooping has not been my only focus.\u00a0 In addition to the admonitions not to poop – I was also warned repeatedly that I was to engage in absolutely no pelvic activity of any kind for the next 4-6 weeks. Sadly, I also had no pelvic activity for several months leading up to the surgery, so one would think I would be rather used to this.<\/p>\n
What I was not used to was how much sex fills our lives every day.\u00a0 Even though I have avoided pelvic activity – I can not seem to escape sex.\u00a0 I can’t watch love stories, crime stories, comedy shows – I find myself hiding behind cooking shows and the Disney channel – and even those seem to work it in.\u00a0 And trust me, I know Mickey Mouse’s “Hot Diggety Dog” dance way better than I should (and am a little too attracted to the way Minnie Mouse dances.)<\/p>\n
Pooping and Pelvic Activity keep me amused and entertained – and also helped distract me from the real stuff – like the loneliness and the pain and the fear.<\/p>\n
Let me preface by saying that I have the most amazing friends. They have surrounded me with love and caring and free slave labor. I would not survive without them.\u00a0 But there is still those moments when you are lying in bed or half-naked in an exam room or even trying to wash yourself in the shower when the loneliness just hits you.\u00a0 I miss cuddling – just having someone I know and trust to spoon me and stroke my hair and just breathe with me.<\/p>\n
I’m not the only single person out there, I’m not the only one that feels this aloneness – and I acknowledge that.\u00a0 But it doesn’t mean it doesn’t suck sometimes.<\/p>\n
My recovery has not been as smooth as we planned.\u00a0 I’ve had side effects like random bleeding that have caused me to go back for additional tests and procedures.\u00a0 I found out that I had cancer after it was already gone – a circus of highs and lows, portent and relief and intimidation.\u00a0 Now I’m dealing with an unknown post-operative mass that may just be blood, or could be an infection.\u00a0 My diabetes adds further complications that could hinder my recovery if it is an infection.\u00a0 Today I go in for another procedure to sample the mass so the doctors can figure out what we are dealing with.<\/p>\n
So what’s a girl to do?\u00a0 Face the challenges that come – try to distract myself when I can – and blog a little to let you know what is happening.<\/p>\n
I’ll try to keep you posted – I’ll try to get back to the business of posting crazy dating stuff – but for now – thanks for reading.<\/p>\n
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