I met Chase on OKCupid. He had actually messaged me just as I was starting to date Knight, so I ended up messaging him back several weeks later when things went sour.<\/p>\n
Chase was a very busy man: two jobs and going to school. So we mostly chatted online, although he asked me if I would go on a date with him. After I said yes, he seemed to drop out of contact for several weeks.<\/p>\n
He popped back in and we chatted back and forth. We discovered that we would both be attending the same Sci Fi con. I mentioned that I had recently dyed my hair red, and he wanted to see so he gave me his cell \u2013 I texted him a pic and then we began texting back and forth.<\/p>\n
Nothing serious, nothing constant, just now and then. He mentioned that he had a room to himself at the hotel, I mentioned that I was sharing with a couple of my friends. He offered that I could come hang out in his room for some peace and quiet and \u201cjust to talk\u201d if I needed that.<\/p>\n
A week before the con, he messaged me on OKCupid to say that he had lost his phone and would contact me once he got his new number. I replied back with \u201cAh, yes. The old lose the phone so I can\u2019t text you any more routine \u2013 I get it. <\/em>\u201d<\/p>\n I didn\u2019t hear back from him. A few days later when I went to message and make sure he knew I was kidding, his OKCupid account had been deleted.<\/p>\n Oh well, I thought. He certainly wasn\u2019t the only guy I was talking to, and our communication had been spotty at best. I had a great time at the Con both Friday and Saturday, and as I was sifting through messages on Sunday morning I saw a text from an email account saying, \u201cI wonder if this will work.<\/em>\u201d<\/p>\n I recognized the email as his and replied back, \u201cHey There<\/em>.\u201d<\/p>\n \u201cHey there Joey, how have you been? My life has been a wreck, lol. I couldn\u2019t even get the courage up to come by and say hello to you yesterday! My self esteem has taken a huge hit lately, so I just really haven\u2019t been \u201cme.\u201d<\/em> \u201c<\/p>\n \u201cDude<\/em>.\u201d I replied elegantly. \u201cCome say hi today. I\u2019ll be here for a few hours.<\/em>\u201d<\/p>\n \u201cGood and bad news . . . I can\u2019t see you today because I\u2019m back home now. But my new phone arrived! Yay!<\/em>\u201d<\/p>\n \u201cWell that\u2019s good<\/em>,\u201d I answered. \u201cYou still suck though.<\/em>\u201d<\/p>\n \u201cBTW, the red hair looked great, lol. I\u2019ll explain all my drama in an email in a little bit.\u201d<\/p>\n \u201cSo you saw me??\u201d<\/p>\n \u201cYes, for a second.\u201d<\/p>\n \u201cGoober. I can\u2019t believe you. LOL.\u201d<\/p>\n \u201cNeed to shut off and charge the phone, I\u2019ll explain later.\u201d<\/em> (How convenient!)<\/p>\n About 3 hours later, I got the following email:<\/p>\n \u201cSo, here\u2019s what been going on. Lost my phone, found out my ex got into my account (I\u2019m sure she had something to do with the missing phone) and started contacting almost everyone about who they are and what they\u2019re doing with me.<\/p>\n Apparently she\u2019s not over me after 2 years . . .<\/p>\n My dad\u2019s been extremely sick, so I\u2019m dealing with that long distance.<\/p>\n I just got a new iPhone, but I am trying not to text much since I don\u2019t want people who happen to access my account to see who I\u2019m talking to. So I\u2019m sticking to email mostly, possibly Viber or Kik for texts.<\/p>\n I guess that\u2019s about it for now. Sorry I was too chicken shit to stop by, like I said, my self-esteem has been shit since this all happened, one of the women I was talking to flipped out about my ex and started berating me. I take that stuff personally. And I\u2019m just really down on myself. I think I just need to find someone to have some bedroom fun with, and tell me it was good and maybe that\u2019ll help, lol.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n Okay \u2013 so wow.<\/p>\n Just to sum up: 2 jobs and school, so very busy. Lost phone so couldn\u2019t text him, but when he got his phone back, it was the number he already had. Crazy ex that he\u2019s not been with that somehow has access to his stuff, emailed other women he\u2019s talking to, and may be able to access them again. So he\u2019s going to go to an alternate texting system. And basically, he wants sex and someone to tell him it\u2019s good even if it isn\u2019t.<\/p>\n All the bells in my head say, \u201cUmm. Yeah. Right.<\/em>\u201d Also \u2013 does anyone else think that maybe the \u201cex\u201d is not an \u201cex\u201d but a current significant other? Cause that\u2019s the red flag I\u2019m seeing.<\/p>\n But maybe it\u2019s just my red hair.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" I met Chase on OKCupid. 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