I know I had mentioned having someone new and special in my life, but that was fairly short-lived.\u00a0 In reality, I think of him now as my shock absorber.\u00a0 He was newly in my life when I found out about my ex\u2019s engagement, and his presence certainly cushioned the blow.\u00a0<\/p>\n
In hindsight (which is always 20\/20) \u2013 there were definitely some red flags (maybe pink flags? Orange flags?\u00a0 Flags of a different color?) which I saw but thought I could decide on later.\u00a0 Maybe I was just tired of searching.<\/p>\n
Whatever the case, he left my life as suddenly as he came in, just like the tide I talked about.\u00a0 And that\u2019s just fine.\u00a0<\/p>\n
\u201cWhen are you going to stop looking online and realize that everyone on there (except you of course) is single for a reason \u2013 because they are broken?\u201d<\/i><\/p>\n
Rocker said this to me as we were driving to lunch one day.\u00a0 I didn\u2019t point out to him that we had, in fact, met online.\u00a0\u00a0 It didn\u2019t seem appropriate somehow.<\/p>\n
Radio had a different idea.\u00a0 He\u2019s now in a relationship with a girl he met on OKCupid.<\/p>\n
\u201cI decided to just chuck out all my pre-conceived notions of what makes a good match for me and just go for it.\u00a0 There was a girl who had sent me a 1-sentence message, and I had previously ignored her because I\u2019m big on communication.\u00a0 But I decided to answer back one day and found out that she actually talks a lot.<\/i> \u201c<\/p>\n
I read through my online profiles again, and thought about revamping them – but I feel like they still hold true and so I just left them as they were. I still proactively message someone if I’m interested, but nothing major has occurred.\u00a0<\/p>\n
So, I\u2019ve decided to go a bit organic for a while.\u00a0 This is hard for me.\u00a0 I was never much for waiting around for a guy to ask me out.\u00a0 I\u2019m still not.\u00a0 But the con season is fast approaching, and it is really the first con season I\u2019ve been through where I\u2019m single vs. attending solo but being in a relationship.\u00a0 So we\u2019ll see what happens.\u00a0 Go all zen and stuff.<\/p>\n
\u201cDon\u2019t be so laid back that people don\u2019t think you are interested<\/i>,\u201d Radio warned me.\u00a0<\/p>\n
Aargh.\u00a0 That\u2019s my quandary.\u00a0 I can either shut off my brain and say, \u201cI\u2019m not looking at all\u201d which institutes the Whoosh Factor that I\u2019ve already discussed.\u00a0 If someone hits on me when I\u2019m in that mode \u2013 I just don\u2019t see it.\u00a0 Or, I can become the huntress on the prowl and seek out my prey like an Amazon on a mission. \u00a0Cause that\u2019s not intimidating.\u00a0 Nope not at all.\u00a0 Plus, it tends to attract guys who like to be pursued and dominated, which isn\u2019t really what I\u2019m looking for either.<\/p>\n
So how does one go organic and still show that you are available and interested?\u00a0 I have no clue.\u00a0 But I\u2019ll try to figure it out and get back to you.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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