{"id":104,"date":"2012-12-31T15:11:01","date_gmt":"2012-12-31T15:11:01","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/joeywrites.com\/?p=104"},"modified":"2013-01-09T19:32:04","modified_gmt":"2013-01-09T19:32:04","slug":"how-not-to-date-an-abuser","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/joeywrites.com\/?p=104","title":{"rendered":"How Not to Date An Abuser"},"content":{"rendered":"

Got to catch up with some dear friends this weekend, and while\u00a0chatting about\u00a0my dating adventures,\u00a0my one friend\u00a0discussed\u00a0the warning signs of an abuser and mentioned\u00a0a good article about the subject by Steven Stosny, Ph.D. <\/strong>\u00a0You can read the full article here: Are You Dating An Abuser?<\/a><\/p>\n

Here are the 9 early warning signs: (each one is explained more completely in the article).<\/p>\n

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  1. Blamer<\/li>\n
  2. Resenter<\/li>\n
  3. Entitlement<\/li>\n
  4. Superiority<\/li>\n
  5. Pettiness<\/li>\n
  6. Sarcasm<\/li>\n
  7. Deceit (intentional or unintentional)<\/li>\n
  8. Minor\u00a0Jealousy<\/li>\n
  9. Rusher<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    An interesting point that they make is that you just need to trust yourself and your instincts.\u00a0 But also, if you seem to keep dating the same kinds of guys – you may need to re-examine what you are looking for that appeals to you.<\/p>\n

    I know I personally was in a verbally abusive marriage for 9 years.\u00a0 Part of my problem was that I was too proud to admit that my marriage was less than perfect – so I would try extra hard to “keep up appearances.”\u00a0 Now, I’m the opposite – openly vocal.\u00a0 But it’s still good to remind ourselves of the signs – just in case we lull ourselves in to sense of acceptance on unacceptable behavior.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

    Got to catch up with some dear friends this weekend, and while\u00a0chatting about\u00a0my dating adventures,\u00a0my one friend\u00a0discussed\u00a0the warning signs of an abuser and mentioned\u00a0a good article about the subject by Steven Stosny, Ph.D. \u00a0You can read the full article here: Are You Dating An Abuser? Here are the 9 early warning signs: (each one is…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":true,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2},"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false},"categories":[3],"tags":[17,9,18],"class_list":["post-104","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-dating","tag-abuse","tag-dating-2","tag-signs"],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/p2UnPK-1G","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_likes_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/joeywrites.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/104","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/joeywrites.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/joeywrites.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/joeywrites.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/joeywrites.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=104"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/joeywrites.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/104\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/joeywrites.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=104"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/joeywrites.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=104"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/joeywrites.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=104"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}