One of the strange things about online dating is the boldness that normally socially awkward individuals feel behind the safety of their computer screen.

I am constantly amazed by people who pick screen names like “imhereforsex273” and “IncarnateLust45” (really – there were that many people who already picked that?).  But at least they put it right out there and save me the trouble of having to figure out their game.

What throws me are the ones where you are having a fairly banal conversation and suddenly you read:

He: Do you like sex?

Me: Umm – random.  I’m not really looking to jump right in to bed with anyone.  But once I find the right person – yes, I do like sex.

He: Okay. So what kind of sex do you like?

I double checked my status at this point, just to make sure that “casual dating” and “intimate encounters” weren’t checked.  Then I politely explained that although I could certainly appreciate that he was horny and wanted to talk about these things tonight, I was probably not the one to help him do that.

I didn’t hear back from him.

It reminds me of a time 5 years ago when I was online and received an IM request.  I clicked over on it, and was immediately exposed to a webcam show of a man, his hand, and his crotch and some rather vigorous activity. 

I politely thanked him for the invitation and said it wasn’t for me before closing the window.

Several days later, I received a very enthusiastic email from the same man – talking about all the things we had in common and how he would love to chat with me sometime and maybe meet.  I then reminded him that we had already met via webcam, and that I didn’t think I was what he was looking for.

He dismissed this (once he remembered it) and incredulously asked, “You mean you can’t get past this?” Nope, sorry.  I think I would always remember that the first time I met you – I saw the head that did most of your thinking.  Thanks though!

I am sure that it was my loss.